Love Story - Jimmy Beh And Tina Lim

Q: How did you meet each other?  

Jimmy: We met in church during our teenage years when I was just 17, and we dated for nine years before getting married. During the most of our courtship, Tina was flying with Singapore Airlines, while I was serving my term as a National Service man. We were also apart for about a year and a half during the time I trained in Perth. 
I proposed after dinner one night at the Singapore Indoor Stadium… It was nothing fancy – just popping the question with a wedding band.

Q: What do you love most about your spouse, and how are you similar and/or different?

Tina: He provides for the family while bringing all of us great joy. He is a great mentor to our son, Daniel. Both of us are rather easy-going ‘people persons’. However, while I tend to take the ‘safer’ road and often seek security, Jimmy has a more adventurous streak, such that he is more open to trying new things.

Jimmy: She is always jovial, and I find that I’m able to discuss just about anything with her. As for our differences, I agree with Tina!

Q: The greatest lesson that 11 years of marriage has taught you?

Tina: After the birth of my son, we have gone through and gained a lot in terms of communicating with each other as husband and wife. I’ve realised the importance of being selfless and taking your spouse’s feelings into consideration, no matter the circumstances.

Jimmy: Since the beginning of our relationship, we have been learning more and more about each other’s strengths and weaknesses – such that after 11 years, we have become rather aware of how to avoid arguments with each other. Tina and I have also learned how to be tactful with each other if we do have any critical comments to make.

Q: What is the most romantic thing your partner has done for you?

Tina: He planned a surprise family trip for us before!

Jimmy: She surprised me with a birthday celebration with my friends one year. Other than that, I can’t exactly recall specific incidents, as we are not really the romantic type. *smiles*

Q: In your opinion, what are the ingredients to a lasting marriage?

Tina: It is important to share the same values, which we do, in addition to sharing Godly faith. We constantly remind ourselves to focus on simply loving each other, instead of thinking about the other party’s faults. It is crucial to always provide words of encouragement to one another, and refrain from putting him or her down. 

Jimmy: Being truthful to each other, no matter what. Additionally, be always ready to forgive and love each other. My advice is not to take things too seriously; enjoy each other’s company, and know that every challenge that might come your way, will pass. Honesty is also key. Be open to each other in every situation!

Q: Can you share with us the biggest challenge that you have overcome with your spouse together?

Tina: I experienced a miscarriage after trying for a child for three years. 
We prayed to God and put our trust in Him in this matter. Somehow, three months after the miscarriage, we received news that I was pregnant again.

Jimmy: That would have to be the initial years of our marriage, when I decided to start up my own business. Income was not stable then, and we had to work hard to bridge the gap in our differing expectations. Thankfully, we managed to overcome this challenge as we gave each other time to see it through.

Source: Blissfulbrides.sg.